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Mardak5150
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 Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 3:55 am Post subject: Sassy time, don't post if you're gonna be an asshole!!! |
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Well BP, I did it, I called her and told her I love her.
She said we'll have to see how things go (it didn't seem like a good tone of voice) (after a long pause)
I feel like I'm gonna throw-up.
A.) Was it a stupid thing to do?
B.) Is her saying that good or bad?
C.) Seriously any help is useful, post if you care to help.
Paul, before you flip shit on me look at it from my perspective, I'm scared, I'm not bragging or complaining, I'm just looking for honest help from my psuedo-big brothers.
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hilikuS
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 4:06 am Post subject: |
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Just gotta make sure you really actually do I guess.
I'm not all that great at relationships mahself... So yeah.
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thejangler
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 4:23 am Post subject: |
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ok, did you tell her you love her or that you like her/are attracted to her?
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 6:15 am Post subject: |
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Sass, if you love the girl and she can see it, then I wouldn't worry. Just make sure you put all your worth into it if it happens.
If shes stupid and says no, then she may have lost something that could've been the best thing for her life.
A few things to remember
1) don't game too much (big turnoff) gaming is ok but make sure it doesn't consume you
2) in the future if anyone asks you for advice on relationships and your girlfriend happens to be on the same message board as you, do not reply with im bad at relationships. Kinda makes the girl feel shitty and that shes putting just her all into things
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 8:16 am Post subject: |
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| tink wrote: | A few things to remember
1) don't game too much (big turnoff) gaming is ok but make sure it doesn't consume you |
I felt the sting on that one.
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Mardak5150
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 10:59 am Post subject: |
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| thejangler wrote: | | ok, did you tell her you love her or that you like her/are attracted to her? |
Straight to love, kinda stupid thing to go right to but I figured I was in the clear, plus MM said kiss on date 3 or I could get stuck in Just Friend Town, so I kinda panicked cause I didn't so I called her up immediately and told her I love her.
*edit* I just read it a myspace survey of fears, that Chrissy fears falling in love, and small spaces, but thats beside the point, anywho...I guess that might explain her hesitance, but on the other hand her silence was unnerving.
+BP, did you like her?
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:23 am Post subject: |
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You guys hear what you want. I don't mind the gaming, which I said. Its the obsession it becomes i don't like.
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:36 am Post subject: |
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| tink wrote: | | You guys hear what you want. I don't mind the gaming, which I said. Its the obsession it becomes i don't like. |
Would you call anything any of us do obsession?
Alright Noobie, I'm going to tell you something with complete seriousness, this is not me being an asshole, because I know exactly where you are.
You do not love her.
You certainly think you do, and I can completely understand that, but you simply don't have the experience to say that you "love" her, and I know because I did the same thing when I was your age and I got burned real, real for bad it. No matter what, you can NOT get that tunnel vision of "love" because it will blind you to the outside world and it can lead to some real dark shit.
Next thing that may sound like a dick thing to say but is unfortunately the truth. When she says "we'll see how things work out" it's because she doesn't have the courage to give you something definitive that may upset you. Which bothers me. It really seems like she doesn't feel the way for you, that you do for her. I think love was too strong of a word and it put her off, and now she's freaked out but doesn't want you going off of the deep end.
Now, you can try to resolve this situation in a couple ways. You can either do damage control, go up to her and tell her you're sorry that you came on so strong and are just interested in her and aren't used to these feelings, so you didn't know how to express them. If she's the kind of girl you want to be with, she'll be understanding and things will cool over.
Or, you can be very straight forward, say to her "listen, I care about you very much and you mean a lot to me (avoid using "love" again). If you don't feel the same about me, please let me know now so I can start getting over this. If she says she doesn't, then get away from her, hang with us, just don't stay near her as it'll only be a reminder. Despite what's said absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, and it'll heal in time if it's away from the source of the "problem" (cold I know but it's the best way to look at it if she's not into you).
Good luck Noobie, seriously. If she's not into you man, don't ever forget that she's just some girl and it's not the end of the world. You WILL find someone else and they will be right for you, I promise.
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:53 am Post subject: |
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That is true. If a girl can't give you a straight up answer then I guess it doesnt mean good. That or shes afraid of her feelings. Im bad at this chic stuff.
example time
bp kinda did the same thing. well at first he announced to our whole class he liked me. but then it implanted the idea in my head. and it took em awhile to realzie my true feelings, but 3 1/2 years later I'm in love with that nubass.
and no i wouldnt say you boys have reached the obsessive level. but i have seen ppl on my dads game getting divorced bc they make it their life. jsut eb wary boys.
good luck to you, dom.
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: |
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I just gave a hearty guffaw when I was reading Paul's long missive about your lady-friend with my quote as his signature at the bottom.
But seriously, telling her that you love her was a dumb idea. There's usually a 1-2 month waiting period before you're supposed to do that. And Paul is right, you may feel like you love her, but at the risk of sounding like a geezer, its nothing more than puppy love.
Now I'm sure you've been beaten over the head by now with everyone telling what you did wrong, but here's an idea of what you can do for damage control: come right up to her and tell her everything straight. I know it's hard, but that's your best bet at getting this over with as painless as possible. Tell her that you like her a lot and that you were nervous about her not feeling the same way, so you said what you said to show her that you do care about her. If she says she doesn't feel the same way then fine, cut your losses and get out of there. You'll be miserable for a month or so, but it sure beats hanging around being lovesick for months, maybe longer.
And if all else fails, you could always rape her. 
Although now that I think about it, you probably won't read this until you get home from school and you've already done whatever you are going to do. Oh well.
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 1:38 pm Post subject: |
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I'm going through almost this exact same situation only this time, SHUT UP SASSY, I am "the girl".
sucks.
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hilikuS
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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This convo is way too serious for the BPI.
Sass, your ole lady seems nice.
Oh, and I'm admittedly obsessed with having fun.
Advice for Sass: Have fun.
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| tink wrote: | | Im bad at this chic stuff. |
By your logic this should offend BP. Just sayin.
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Mardak5150
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 6:57 pm Post subject: |
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She goes to a different school, so my options are still up in the air, but I don't have time to deal with it now. I gotta think everything through, I'll resolve it tonight I hope.
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Mardak5150
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I've sorta been hyperventilating for the past 30 minutes, but I have a doctors appointment so I can't deal with it.
This is gonna be a long night...
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